In the past 10 years or so, I have had more friends than family members pass away. It seems like by the time I have dealt with the grief of one passing, the news of another comes down the line.
Every time I'm saddened about the passing of a friend or loved one, I want to remember the positive experiences I had with them.
-Admiring a co worker's frankness
-Joking with another about parking our car when we thought something was wrong, like just sitting would resolve whatever was making that noise under the hood
-telling my old manager the he was going to have to take me to HR when I lost the weight I was working to lose because I was going to be slapping people
-corny jokes
-The lesson in chivalry I witnessed when I went bowling with a couple of guy friends a few years back.
**You know that moment when you start to look at someone in a whole new way? Now they are all gone. Only memories, stories to tell when their name comes up in conversation with friends.
I never know what to say when someone passes. I don't know what I would want to hear so it is hard for me to think of what would comfort someone else. There is no making someone feel better when they lose someone they love. All we can offer is comfort and condolences. Sometimes there are no words.
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Thursday, August 5, 2010
Friday, July 30, 2010
"Thank You & Good Night!"
"The best laid plans" and all that crap.
I'm kicking myself right now. I missed the slam! I've been waiting for months to attend this slam.
July 17th marked the beginning of a very welcome invasion. My sister and her family arrived Saturday evening and stayed until the 29th.
The day of the slam I went out with my sisters to go shoe shopping. I really don't like to shop for shoes for myself. I enjoyed the girl time with my sisters. We haven't done that before so it was nice to go to different places and try to find shoes that we liked. I actually found some shoes and was very pleased because the last time I went shoe shopping, I couldn't find anything and went home disappointed.
Anyway worked the night before and spread myself a little thin with what I wanted to get done. When we got home from shoe shopping, I had to sit down for a little bit. There is normally an open mic before the slam and I was thinking that I had time to rest up some before heading out to the slam. We left the house at 9 and got there just as the host was saying to the crowd, "Thank you and good night!"
Damnit! I missed every single word. Some of my favorite North Carolina poets were in attendance. Sigh, we chatted and socialized some and went for ice cream before heading on in to the house. I had to listen to my body and slow it down because bad things happen when I push too hard. God willing I will be able to attend something else in the future.
More to come...
I'm kicking myself right now. I missed the slam! I've been waiting for months to attend this slam.
July 17th marked the beginning of a very welcome invasion. My sister and her family arrived Saturday evening and stayed until the 29th.
The day of the slam I went out with my sisters to go shoe shopping. I really don't like to shop for shoes for myself. I enjoyed the girl time with my sisters. We haven't done that before so it was nice to go to different places and try to find shoes that we liked. I actually found some shoes and was very pleased because the last time I went shoe shopping, I couldn't find anything and went home disappointed.
Anyway worked the night before and spread myself a little thin with what I wanted to get done. When we got home from shoe shopping, I had to sit down for a little bit. There is normally an open mic before the slam and I was thinking that I had time to rest up some before heading out to the slam. We left the house at 9 and got there just as the host was saying to the crowd, "Thank you and good night!"
Damnit! I missed every single word. Some of my favorite North Carolina poets were in attendance. Sigh, we chatted and socialized some and went for ice cream before heading on in to the house. I had to listen to my body and slow it down because bad things happen when I push too hard. God willing I will be able to attend something else in the future.
More to come...
Monday, July 26, 2010
Platinum! ~ Grownups are allowed to drink.
Life has been interesting for me lately. I've been pulled in all different directions while trying to listen to my heart beat and find the passion in my life. I have never been a very passionate person. I try to look at things simply, think flexibly and be nice.
I am not much of a drinker. I would go so far, at times, to say that I am not one at all. I know that now, better than I ever have before.
It is strange how life happens. I found out today that a friend from work passed away Friday. Sometimes things happen so fast that it can be overwhelming to think about.
Friday was that day. I didn't hear about my coworkers passing until later when I got to work. My cousin had a car accident Friday afternoon, he was not hurt, and my sister and I went to pick him up. Later that evening, my daughters' stepsister had a blow out and their godfather was kind enough to go pick her up and bring her back to our apartment where she would be safe until her mother could come get her the next morning. I invited a friend to come out with my sisters and me who had car trouble and didn't make it out. The bright side is that no one was hurt. The flip side is that folks are broke now.
People are what is important, irreplaceable. Money comes and goes.
I was looking forward to this night for a while. I didn't have to work the following night so I was going to drink as much as I wanted knowing that I didn't have to get up to go to work the next day. I made sure I had someone to see that I got home safe and grabbed a drink. Platinum! 7x distilled, whatever that is supposed to mean. It was relatively inexpensive and effective. Mixed a few drinks and let the room spin begin. I'll be the first to admit, I over did it. I had a good time, so I'm told. From what I remember, I had a good time and from what I don't remember, I had a good time. Needless to say, it won't be happening again anytime soon.
I am not much of a drinker. I would go so far, at times, to say that I am not one at all. I know that now, better than I ever have before.
It is strange how life happens. I found out today that a friend from work passed away Friday. Sometimes things happen so fast that it can be overwhelming to think about.
Friday was that day. I didn't hear about my coworkers passing until later when I got to work. My cousin had a car accident Friday afternoon, he was not hurt, and my sister and I went to pick him up. Later that evening, my daughters' stepsister had a blow out and their godfather was kind enough to go pick her up and bring her back to our apartment where she would be safe until her mother could come get her the next morning. I invited a friend to come out with my sisters and me who had car trouble and didn't make it out. The bright side is that no one was hurt. The flip side is that folks are broke now.
People are what is important, irreplaceable. Money comes and goes.
I was looking forward to this night for a while. I didn't have to work the following night so I was going to drink as much as I wanted knowing that I didn't have to get up to go to work the next day. I made sure I had someone to see that I got home safe and grabbed a drink. Platinum! 7x distilled, whatever that is supposed to mean. It was relatively inexpensive and effective. Mixed a few drinks and let the room spin begin. I'll be the first to admit, I over did it. I had a good time, so I'm told. From what I remember, I had a good time and from what I don't remember, I had a good time. Needless to say, it won't be happening again anytime soon.
Thursday, June 24, 2010
No Slam for me......it's going to be a great show!
THURSDAY, JULY 22ND
8PM - 10PM
KRANKIES COFFEE - 211 East 3rd Street, Winston Salem, NC 27101
(336) 722-3016
Support the Piedmont Slam team as they compete in a mock slam against The Bull City Slam Team, Slam Charlotte and other slam teams from the NC and SC area! This slam will be a fundraiser and preparation for the National Poetry Slam in St. Paul's MN, Aug 3 - 7.
I planned to participate in the slam, but I got this in an e-mail. I am a little disappointed about it. I am excited about the show! These people go at it like the rent is on the line. I'm still going. I don't know if there will be an open mic, so I guess I will be a spectator. That lady. You know the one. The one that hoots and hollers louder than anyone else. Not that drunk lady, no, no, no. I'm that enthusiastic one. The one that cheers for the new person and shows love to the artists that moved me that night.
I haven't written anything new, but I have been practicing my other pieces. I have the voice part recorded of two pieces and am at a stand still on recording others. I don't like the sound of my voice, but I like the sound of my twin sister's. The awful thing is that we sound almost exactly alike.
I have come to really enjoy spoken word performances. Sometimes I listen and the piece is thought provoking. Others, I am purely entertained. I love it when it is an experience. That is why I'm looking forward to the slam in July. There will be a few teams there and it should be interesting. A couple I have seen before and some I haven't. Since I can't go on the slam tour and see some of the larger competitions, it is nice to know that I will be able to see one of the stops on the Slam Tour.
Feel free to come on out. I'll be the loud one in the corner down front. Peace and Blessings.
8PM - 10PM
KRANKIES COFFEE - 211 East 3rd Street, Winston Salem, NC 27101
(336) 722-3016
Support the Piedmont Slam team as they compete in a mock slam against The Bull City Slam Team, Slam Charlotte and other slam teams from the NC and SC area! This slam will be a fundraiser and preparation for the National Poetry Slam in St. Paul's MN, Aug 3 - 7.
I planned to participate in the slam, but I got this in an e-mail. I am a little disappointed about it. I am excited about the show! These people go at it like the rent is on the line. I'm still going. I don't know if there will be an open mic, so I guess I will be a spectator. That lady. You know the one. The one that hoots and hollers louder than anyone else. Not that drunk lady, no, no, no. I'm that enthusiastic one. The one that cheers for the new person and shows love to the artists that moved me that night.
I haven't written anything new, but I have been practicing my other pieces. I have the voice part recorded of two pieces and am at a stand still on recording others. I don't like the sound of my voice, but I like the sound of my twin sister's. The awful thing is that we sound almost exactly alike.
I have come to really enjoy spoken word performances. Sometimes I listen and the piece is thought provoking. Others, I am purely entertained. I love it when it is an experience. That is why I'm looking forward to the slam in July. There will be a few teams there and it should be interesting. A couple I have seen before and some I haven't. Since I can't go on the slam tour and see some of the larger competitions, it is nice to know that I will be able to see one of the stops on the Slam Tour.
Feel free to come on out. I'll be the loud one in the corner down front. Peace and Blessings.
Yikes! My bad!
I can't believe that it has been so long since I've posted. I was reading a blog that I follow and thinking, "I've been doing good to post on mine. Wait! I haven't posted in almost two months! Crap!"
Well life has been busy. The summer is here and my children's school year is over so now I have them to keep me company when I should be sleeping. Working til 3 a.m. is nuts when your children get up like the military. 5 a.m. and the troops are on the move. I love the faces people make when I tell them that my children get up at 5 in the morning. It's like they can't understand why. Children love chaos, they need order.
Life has been happening since I last wrote. I started dating, sort of. I stopped dating, for real. I've been working my business and then business fell off a little bit. Now it is starting to pick up again. I am thinking about investing in some catering supplies. My business has been presented with some opportunities to network. I am still trying to figure out what my next steps need to be. I had the conversation today so I am still thinking on it and I'm going to pray on it before I go to sleep tonight.
I think that my life is like a tide. Ebb and flow of the water. Things are a little hectic for a bit then they calm down. My business is cranking with three orders a week for a month or so and then no orders for a few weeks. It worked out great because those weeks were when things were a little crazy. I am so blessed.
I have been trying to be my house in order. Mostly tackle my clutter. I want to be able to have company on short notice and not feel anxious about what my house looks like. It is a process, but I will not let my anxiety keep me from welcoming an unexpected guest.
I will be attending a family reunion this weekend. It is my father's family. I have not attended one of theirs in a while. It is so hard to be around them because they look like him and sound like him. It is surreal. I am hoping for a nice time. It will be a nice way to kick off my children's visit with my mother. They will be visiting for a few weeks and we are all going somewhere together before they stay with her to spend their summer quality time.
I will get something else written soon to share. Until then...More to come.
Well life has been busy. The summer is here and my children's school year is over so now I have them to keep me company when I should be sleeping. Working til 3 a.m. is nuts when your children get up like the military. 5 a.m. and the troops are on the move. I love the faces people make when I tell them that my children get up at 5 in the morning. It's like they can't understand why. Children love chaos, they need order.
Life has been happening since I last wrote. I started dating, sort of. I stopped dating, for real. I've been working my business and then business fell off a little bit. Now it is starting to pick up again. I am thinking about investing in some catering supplies. My business has been presented with some opportunities to network. I am still trying to figure out what my next steps need to be. I had the conversation today so I am still thinking on it and I'm going to pray on it before I go to sleep tonight.
I think that my life is like a tide. Ebb and flow of the water. Things are a little hectic for a bit then they calm down. My business is cranking with three orders a week for a month or so and then no orders for a few weeks. It worked out great because those weeks were when things were a little crazy. I am so blessed.
I have been trying to be my house in order. Mostly tackle my clutter. I want to be able to have company on short notice and not feel anxious about what my house looks like. It is a process, but I will not let my anxiety keep me from welcoming an unexpected guest.
I will be attending a family reunion this weekend. It is my father's family. I have not attended one of theirs in a while. It is so hard to be around them because they look like him and sound like him. It is surreal. I am hoping for a nice time. It will be a nice way to kick off my children's visit with my mother. They will be visiting for a few weeks and we are all going somewhere together before they stay with her to spend their summer quality time.
I will get something else written soon to share. Until then...More to come.
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